There are multitudes of ways people are getting offended these days. But if youβre constantly getting enraged by the world, your life wonβt be enjoyable. Not to mention your mental health and perspective on the future will suffer. You donβt deserve that.
Your life is more vast and incredible than what one person said in less than a minute. Youβre too powerful to allow these things to affect you.
If you keep your mind healthy and aimed at making yourself better, life has no choice but to transform for you.
But if you stay in victim mode, each day will be more challenging than the last.
I understand because I get offended by propaganda, hate, lies, and racism. My blood boils, and I lash out at people. Then I feel bad for it, and the other person never changes their ways.
So, itβs a waste of time to ruin my day because others donβt think the way I do. Itβs difficult, but itβs essential to let it go.
Decide today to take back your happiness and not get offended by people.
Here are some ways you can stop getting offended:
1. Stop getting offended by what you canβt change
βThe only real conflict you will ever have in your life wonβt be with others, but with yourself.β
β Shannon L. Alder
Unless itβs an outrageous offense, itβs better to not let it bother you. If you can do something about it, do it. However, if thereβs no way you could change the situation, let it go. Or donβt be around the offensive person.
Also, complaining on social media about things you canβt control doesnβt make you a better person. How people live or what they believe isnβt up to you. Luckily, your life and how you feel are under your control.
2. Donβt look for reasons to get offended
βForgive all who have offended you, not for them, but for yourself.β
β Harriet Nelson
If you look for offensive things, youβll always find them. You may not realize it, but you might be unconsciously searching for reasons to get heated.
So donβt scroll through Facebook, looking for things that upset you. Then calling it out, so your friends think you have such high morals. Youβre just making yourself look like a βKaren,β so do yourself a favor and stop. Change your outlook and look for things to share that make you feel joyful.
3. Let go of getting offended about peopleβs opinions
βTo be offended is a choice we make; it is not a condition inflicted or imposed upon us by someone or something else.β
ββ David A. Bednar
Understand that someoneβs opinions of you are not valid. So donβt take it as the truth because youβre the only person who truly knows who you are. Others can only guess, project, or assume. So, detach from their words and stop using apps that upset you.
If someone is rude to you, you can choose to not get offended. That will take power from the other person because they wanted you to explode in anger. Certainly, donβt reward them for their behavior.
Ask yourself:
- βIn the big picture of my life, does Sallyβs opinion change anything?β
- βAre they trying to irritate me? Or are they lashing out because theyβre hurt and donβt know how else to handle it?β
- βHow am I trying to feel right now? Better or angrier?
The reason people get offended is the importance they give to what others do or say. As a result, you feel hurt because of the meaning theyβve attached to it. Stop thinking itβs so important and let it go.
4. Remember why you should get along with this person
βJust because youβre offended, doesnβt mean youβre right.β
β Ricky Gervais
If you can avoid those who purposefully try to offend you, then keep your distance. But thatβs not always possible. Offensive people are sometimes family members, your spouse, or a co-worker. So, itβs not realistic to never speak to them again. You must remember why you want them in your life. For instance, if youβre arguing with a relative about politics, remember why you love them. In this case, the best way to respond is with kindness and to agree to disagree. Then move on to another topic.
5. Itβs not about you anyway
βWhenever anyone has offended me, I try to raise my soul so high that the offense cannot reach it.β
β Rene Descartes
The hurtful things people say donβt mean that youβre a worthless person. Youβre not. In fact, itβs not about who you are at all. If your parents mistreated you, it wasnβt about you; it was about them. A friend who blows up at you is reacting to the tragedies in their past as well.
Furthermore, theyβll continue to harass you if you react in the way they hoped you would. Many of them want to see you flip out and cause a commotion. That reaction proves that they were successful in ruining your day. Now they arenβt alone in having a terrible time, so they got what they wanted.
Theyβve been through traumas, but they donβt know how to cope with them. So, you donβt have to get bothered by it. Besides, it isnβt about you at all. Itβs about the kids who teased them in school or how their parents treated them. So, donβt get angry or sad because it has nothing to do with you, and their words donβt define who you are.
You donβt need to convince others that youβre a worthy human. You know who you are. So, shrug it off and walk away. Donβt reward them with your attention. Youβre stronger than that, and there are more critical things that need your focus.
6. Donβt listen to your ego
βThat which offends you only weakens you. Being offended creates the same destructive energy that offended you in the first place β so transcend your ego and stay in peace.β
β Wayne Dyer
Being ego-driven is a sure-fire way to continually feel offended. Itβs who people believe themselves to be or how they want others to see them. People arenβt out to attack, embarrass, or hurt you. Whatβs worse is this mindset can make you feel like a victim for the rest of your life.
Also, you could mistreat others without realizing it. If someone tells you that you upset them, donβt get defensive. Β A huge ego is a fragile ego. Itβll cause you to feel insulted by others when they didnβt mean to hurt you. Β Youβll feel like youβre always on guard from any attack. So, if someone brings up something you did that bothered them, listen to them. Be strong and let them know that youβre sorry that wasnβt your intent. That will end the argument, and youβll gain some respect.
7. Itβs not your job to change people
βIf youβre going to be offended, donβt put yourself in that position.β
β Ray Stevenson
Donβt try to change others. It wonβt work, and youβll end up looking like a jerk. If someone wants help, theyβll ask for it. Otherwise, accept them and love them for who they are. The more you think that other peopleβs behaviors affect your life, the more it will. So donβt attempt to change their beliefs, religion, or lifestyle. You can only change yourself, so focus on that.
8. Accept yourself and others
βIf you are easily offended you are easily manipulated.β
β Makosi Musambasi
Acceptance destroys offensive thoughts toward yourself or others. Accept who you are so that way no one can upset you about it. Your value doesnβt come from othersβ opinions. Also, accept how others are. Everyone is imperfect, but we all have inherent value. Appreciate your differences instead of getting angry about them. Itβs the many varieties of people that make life so amazing.
In short, youβll be much happier when you stop getting offended so much. Itβll give you unshakable confidence, and people will stop bothering you. Theyβll see that it doesnβt work anymore.
Give up on trying to change others and accept them instead. Look for ways they are valuable and good people. Donβt look for reasons to get offended; itβs not about you, anyway. Detach from peopleβs rude opinions and respond with kindness. Itβs your choice to ruin your day by getting offended. Choose to have a great day instead.
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