Charismatic people are popular, confident, and attractive. Almost no one can resist them! Whether that be buying what they’re selling or accepting their offers. These people are success magnets.
For instance, have you ever met someone who lights up the room the moment they arrive? This person has discovered an essential secret to success: charisma.
Charisma is a compelling charm that inspires devotion in others. So, you can see why this is such a valuable trait!
The key to charisma is to make others feel good about themselves. So, it’ll make you more persuasive and likable. If you could use more of this in your life, don’t worry, anyone can become charismatic!
Here are some simple methods to be a more charismatic person:
1. Have an open mind
“Charisma is the intangible that makes people want to follow you, to be around you, to be influenced by you.”
– Roger Dawson
You’ll be more enjoyable to be around if you’re open-minded and nonjudgmental. Don’t be so set in your ways that you refuse to listen to anyone. When you pay attention to people’s thoughts and life experiences, they’ll feel bonded to you.
You don’t have to agree with everyone but at least listen to them. Also, don’t try to push your opinions on others. More than likely, it won’t work. So, just default to agreeing to disagree rather than exploding in anger.
2. Develop confidence
“Charisma is the perfect blend of warmth and confidence.”
– Vanessa Van Edwards
Another appealing trait is confidence, believing that you can handle the challenges needed to succeed. You know you can do what’s required in order to reach your goals. So, there’s no reason to worry; your mind is serene, enthusiastic, and unburdened.
Here are some tips to gain confidence:
- Speak in a relaxed voice, instead of loud and aggressive.
- Don’t speak in a high-pitched tone because that may annoy some people.
- Have a clean appearance, smell good, and spend a little time exercising.
- Be full of life when you talk, and you’ll embody charisma.
Although, don’t overdo it on any of these tips. Moderation in everything.
You’ll have fearless confidence once you stop worrying about what others think. Don’t be mean to them, but don’t obsess about their opinions either. You can’t force people to accept you, besides, if they don’t, that’s their problem, not yours!
Also, charismatic people don’t need to be in the spotlight. In fact, they’re okay with stepping to the side and letting others take over sometimes. You’re an incredible person, but you don’t need to yell it from the rooftops. Let people realize it on their own. Relax, and they’ll come to you.
3. Use charismatic body language
“What you do speaks so loud that I cannot hear what you say.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
Your body language speaks much louder than your words. In fact, what you say stands for only 7% of what you’re communicating. How you say it (or your tone of voice) is 38%, and your body language speaks loudest of all with 55%. Also, people remember more about how you made them feel rather than what you said. So, keep this in mind with your next conversation.
Here are some tips on having charisma with body language:
- Mirror how the other person is sitting. This helps them feel like you’re similar to them, thus making them like and trust you more.
- Sit, stand, and walk with self-assurance and confidence.
- Smile. When you smile, you’ll be more approachable and likable.
- Face your body towards the person you’re talking to and pay attention to what they say.
- Don’t cross your arms or fidget.
- Keep eye contact long enough to see the color of the person’s eyes.
However, please don’t overdo it with these tips, or you might seem creepy or weird.
4. Be present and listen to them
“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.”
– Bryant H. McGill
Giving people you’re total attention makes them feel valued. Besides, you must give respect to get it, and being present is respectful. Therefore, put your phone on silent and put it away. Make it a point to focus solely on that person. When they see that you’re taking them seriously, they’ll be mesmerized by your charm.
Here are some more tips:
“Charisma is not just saying hello. It’s dropping what you’re doing to say hello.”
Have a genuine interest in each person you meet. Besides, people are fascinating! Each one has a unique mind filled with a different universe of ideas and experiences.
- Let them finish speaking, and don’t bulldoze over the conversation.
- Don’t talk only about yourself. Instead, encourage them to keep talking by asking them questions.
- Listen to them as if they are the most interesting person in the world.
- Don’t think about your response while they’re talking.
When you listen to what people say, you instantly become more charismatic.
5. Ask them about what they love
“When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new.”
– Dalai Lama
When people talk about their passions, they feel uplifted and energized. Ask them questions and get interested in what they say. Who knows, you might find something you’re passionate about by listening to them?
6. Don’t be arrogant
“How can you have charisma? Be more concerned about making others feel good about themselves than you are making them feel good about you.”
– Dan Reiland
Don’t act arrogant because that gives off bad vibes that no one likes. If you’re truly confident, you don’t need to put others down or be the loudest person in the room.
Those who don’t take themselves too seriously and know how to joke around attract people to them. So, never pretend to be perfect because that’s ridiculous.
Besides, if you think you’re high and mighty above others, they’ll seek ways to prove you wrong! Instead, be the first to point out when you mess up.
You can even laugh at yourself, and people love that! Plus, they can’t bring it up to drag you down because you already pointed it out.
7. Use humor to your advantage
“Charisma is a sparkle in people that money can’t buy. It’s an invisible energy with visible effects.”
– Marianne Williamson
Humor is one of the most powerful charismatic techniques. If you can make someone laugh, you’ve got them. People feel great when they’re laughing. I’ve used this to get hired in the past, and it works like a charm!
Although it’s essential to know how each person perceives humor because this can vary. Some people like teasing each other, but others take that too seriously. Analyze your audience beforehand.
Laugh at their jokes too! You want them to feel good, so don’t sit there in silence if they make a terrible joke. Instead, encourage them with at least a slight chuckle.
8. Be more positive
“People who love life have charisma because they fill the room with positive energy.”
– John C. Maxwell
Everyone loves being around positive people because it makes them feel great too! When someone asks how you’re doing, tell them it’s going amazing! Remind people that it’s a beautiful day.
Greet people with a big smile. Smiling makes people feel comfortable (as long as you don’t overdo it). Say their name and ask them about something positive they’ve told you before. For example, “Hey, Bob! How’s the new puppy?” Bringing up things that they’ve told you will show them that you care enough to remember. Also, they’ll associate you with a meaningful event in their life.
9. Don’t gossip
Gossiping is a surefire way to push people away from you. Besides, you don’t need to talk trash to feel good. That’s not cool. Instead, use the scientifically proven method of spontaneous trait transference. Don’t worry; this is just a fancy term that means people will assume you have the traits you use to describe others.
Therefore, if you complement others, then people will believe you have those characteristics. Try it out!
10. Be honest
“Honesty is a very expensive gift. Don’t expect it from cheap people.”
– Warren Buffett
People love authentic people who tell the truth regardless of whether it’s good or bad. It shows integrity and makes you more charismatic. Believe it or not, you’ll impress people when you step up and admit it when you make a mistake.
Don’t make excuses (or reasons); it looks terrible when you don’t take accountability for your actions. You’re not supposed to be perfect, it’s impossible, so don’t pretend you never make mistakes. Also, you’ll look insecure if you try to cover it up with excuses or, worse yet, lies.
11. Don’t be so easily offended
Charismatic people don’t flip out every time someone is rude. They know it’s a waste of time. A fragile ego causes a victim mentality, and that makes people easily offended. What someone thinks of you doesn’t matter anyway, chances are they’re jealous, bitter, or have problems at home.
It’s your choice whether you get offended or not. Do you want to be resentful and angry all day?
12. Apologize when needed
“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.”
– Peter T. Mcintyre
Don’t be the one who can’t say they’re sorry. This is off-putting to everyone because you’re acting like you do nothing wrong.
Gain the strength and courage to admit that you messed up and apologize. Besides, this is the only way to put the situation to rest and for everyone to move on. So, don’t wait, do it as fast as possible.
Ultimately, charisma is all about making other people feel valued and important.
That’ll make you more likable. So, focus on others, and everyone will want you as a partner, employee, or even a best friend.
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How will you become more charismatic?
Wow, thanks Sheryl, for yet another amazing post! I especially like the part about how effective body language is. I learned that “what you say stands for only 7% How you say it is 38% and your body language speaks loudest of all with 55%.” I will incorporate this into my communication style going forward 🙂
Thanks Trent! 😊
This is a must-do😀Thanks!
Definitely! It helps to be charismatic. Especially if you’re ever in a bad situation, it can save the day!